what the world needs now

"What the world needs now is love sweet love, its the only thing that there's just too little of. what the world needs now is love sweet love, no not just for some, oh but just for every every everyone."

What the World Needs Now - Dionne Warwick

BANGON!

This song is Rico Blanco's way of helping the victims caused by "ondoy" and "pepeng."

the art of apologizing

"I AM SORRY" or "MY APOLOGY" are of the few phrases that are hard to utter. Perhaps because "SORRY" holds some power. Power to mend relationships, heal a broken heart, dissolve anger or soothe a shattered pride, or it lessen stress. Wanting of apology constitutes a negative effect on the person who needs to utter those power words. On the other hand, over-apologizing (I am guilty of this) isn't healthy too.

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Apologize when: (1) you are in wrong; and (2) when you're both to blame. Skip apologizing when you don't feel you are in wrong. ;p

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Apologize when you are in wrong. Genuine apology has three(3) elements: (1) regretting the actions; (2) taking responsibility for the consequences of your actions; and (3) willing to fix the situation or anything severed because of the action done. It's like opening the social networks of your boyfriend without permission (when he never gave you his password) and you accidentally read a confidential thingy. Your boyfriend is furious and felt betrayed. In this case "FULL APOLOGY" is needed. Make your apology short and simple but with all the elements present, apologize with a heart.

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Apologize when you 're both to blame. In legal parlance, "in pari delicto" or in equal fault. In this case, either of you will initiate the apologizing and taking responsibility for your own actions. Apologize with a heart. Accept and face the consequences of your actions and help one another to mend broken things/feelings. Just do your part. Don't wait fot the other person to do his part. Either he will forgive you or think of everything yet.

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And the most important all of these apologizing thingy is "NEVER APOLOGIZE WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL YOU ARE IN WRONG!" I am prone to "OVER-APOLOGIZING" because I always feel I am responsible for everything that makes my relationships with people severed. I am afraid of losing to the point of sacrificing my pride and tampering my ego. I always wanted to have a smooth-sailing relationship. And now, I am learning ;p

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According to some authorities, another time to stop apologizing is when the apology is harshly revoked. "Taking a step back may seem like giving up on the relationship, but it isn't. Sometimes keeping quiet; after you've said all you can, is as powerful as speaking up. " [Maria Neuman,L.A.]

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That's why it's called "the art of apologizing" it is not simply saying "I'M SORRY" but what matters most is the intention. Apologize with a heart.

in memoriam: jhoi chua

She had fought a good fight. Please pray for the soul of our dear friend (Kristine Joy) who passed away last Oct. 1, 2009 @NKI. Funeral rites on October 10, 2009 (Saturday) @9am, Vigan City.